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repost: nerdy apple bottom “my son is gay”

This post here is one of the most heartwarming things I’ve seen in a long time. In addition to being a lovely and refreshing peace from a loving parent, the mother in question makes some comments that I think are very telling:

“Seriously, WHO WOULD MAKE FUN OF A CHILD IN A COSTUME ON HALLOWEEN?” Said with true incredulity. This should be an obvious question, it was to her, but it wasn’t to the other mothers she spoke with. It wasn’t to me, but then I’ve dealt with the sort of people who would. But think about it, isn’t it the most ridiculous thing?

“The only people that seem to have a problem with it is their mothers.” Bullies learn bullshit from their parents. Plain and simple. Younger kids don’t blink at that sort of thing, but later on when their parents’ “values” have taken hold they have no problem shitting on their fellow classmates. I actually had a similar experience with this exact thing. When I was maybe six, I went over to a friend’s house in one of my sister’s dresses (walking distance, my parents didn’t even see what I was wearing). Friend thought it was a blast, mother flipped out and called mine. A year or two later that would have easily gotten me pummeled.

“But it also was heartbreaking to me that my sweet, kind-hearted five year old was right to be worried. He knew that there were people like A, B, and C. And he, at 5, was concerned about how they would perceive him and what would happen to him.” Because kids notice this stuff, and it sinks in deep pretty quickly.

“If a set of purple sparkly tights and a velvety dress is what makes my baby happy one night, then so be it. If he wants to carry a purse, or marry a man, or paint fingernails with his best girlfriend, then ok. My job as his mother is not to stifle that man that he will be, but to help him along his way. Mine is not to dictate what is ‘normal’ and what is not, but to help him become a good person.”

I just wanted to end on what I thought was the best part of the post. But it is all much better in context, so pop over and give nerdy apple bottom some love, she deserves it big time.

  1. November 21, 2010 at 14:06

    It’s great that the parents accept their kid, but it is possible that the kid may not grow up to be a man. How about just not stifling the PERSON that your kid will grow up to be?

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